12 Essential Rules Every Interracial Couple Has to Follow!
Being in an interracial relationship is an adventure.
Discovering each other’s differences is exciting. Getting to know each other’s cultures is interesting. Falling in love with the partner of your dreams is beautiful.
But it’s not all sunshine and rainbows.
Every interracial couple knows that there are times when you want to hide under a blanket and pray to God that people finally stop being so narrow-minded.
These are the days when you doubt if it’s worth it. A lot of interracial couples reach this point, but the ones who live by the following 12 rules will never reach the point of giving up.
1. Accept that Some People Will Hate You
You don’t have to understand it, but you have to accept it.
In fact, you will probably never understand how anyone could possibly hate two people for loving each other. It doesn’t make any sense.
But that’s how it is. Some people are full of hate. Others believe in outdated concepts because their parents and grandparents believed in them.
You can’t change these people but you can change the way you allow them to affect you.
2. Stop Caring About What Other People Think
Do you still get angry when someone stares at you because your partner has a different skin color?
Then you are up for a lot of disappointment in life.
They won’t stop. You have to stop. You have to stop caring about what other people think of you. Sorry, but that’s your only chance to enjoy a happy and fulfilling interracial relationship.
As long as you care about the opinions of other people, you give them the power and they will use this power to destroy your relationship.
3. Talk about the Political Situation
You just have to watch the news and you will see all kinds of racial conflicts. Just think about what’s going on in the USA nowadays. It’s embarrassing for a country, but you have to accept that you can’t change that.
The only thing you can do is to talk about everything with your partner.
Don’t ignore or deny what’s going on in the world. If there’s something that’s bothering you, you need to talk about it. That’s good for your emotional wellbeing and for your relationship.
4. Befriend Other Interracial Couples
It’s always good to have allies who are facing the same problems that you are facing.
It might be unfair to say that, but your friends who are not in an interracial relationship will never understand the issues that you are dealing with on a daily basis.
That’s why it’s so important to talk to someone who is in the exact same situation.
5. Laugh about the Jokes
When you are white and your partner is black (or the other way around), you are probably already tired of racist jokes.
I mean, some of these jokes are meant to be funny and not hurtful. That might be true, but everyone who is in an interracial relationship knows that they leave a sour taste.
Just ignore them and laugh about the ones who are not that disrespectful.
6. Don’t Hide the Fact that You Are Hurt
What if someone makes a joke or a comment that really hurts?
It happens. Some people do it on purpose to hurt you. Others do it because they don’t have any social skills. No matter why they do it, you have to deal with it.
Don’t bury your emotions. Tell your partner why you are hurt and talk about everything. That’s how you turn negative emotions into positive ones.
7. Smile When You Get Encouraged
These are the moments that make your heart beat.
Every now and then, someone smiles at you and your partner. They might even encourage you and tell you that you look beautiful together.
Remember these moments and be proud that people have the courage to encourage interracial couples.
8. Don’t Expect Others to Understand
Don’t expect your friends, your family, or your coworkers to understand what you feel. And please, don’t get angry when some of them say something like “that’s not a big deal” or “don’t be so sensitive”.
They are not you.
They don’t know how it feels to be in love with someone from another race. They don’t know how it hurts when someone judges you for loving someone with all your heart.
9. Be There for Each Other When Times Are Tough
This is important in every relationship, but it’s even more important when you are in an interracial relationship.
Be there for each other. As long as you are there for each other and support each other, it doesn’t matter how many people encourage you and how many people judge you.
Your love is stronger than the criticism you are facing. Don’t ever let your partner down. Show your love and support. This will bring you closer together.
10. Embrace the Fact that You Are Different
As a couple, you are different. Sorry, but that’s a fact. And yes, interracial relationships are getting more common, but it’s still not the norm.
The worst thing you can do is to be ashamed that you are different. Instead, you should embrace your difference and love each other for your differences.
11. Continue to Lift Each Other Up
A relationship can only survive when you make each other smile. And believe me when I say that you have to make each other smile a lot whenever someone says something negative about your relationship.
That’s why it’s so important that you lift each other up.
Make your partner laugh. Have a great time. That’s what makes a relationship happy and fulfilling.
12. See Each Other As Human Beings
One more thing...
Don’t even look at each other as black, white or Asian. See each other as human beings.
This will make you forget that you are in a relationship that’s a bit different from the norm and it will make you love and respect each other even more. Enjoy your time together.